Thursday 23 January 2014

NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF

I know, I'm not dreaming, but its still hard to believe 365 days have passed since I threw away all my nicotine along with those expensive pills, patches, gums and lozengers and just stopped smoking. I was so fed up and mad at myself continuting to use a deadly product that maims and kills, but I could not seem to break that daily cycle. I'd been "TRYING" to stop for a long-long time, it seemed impossible and you know what? In the end it was easier than I ever could have imagined.

All I needed was an EDUCATION and Using Attitude To Reduce Stress , Patience and some PRACTICE. All of you before me have led by your example, I believed IN YOU and followed in your Footsteps. If you are here for the first look or just arrived or stuggling. Believe me it works.

Listen to me, you'd think we did something awesome, wonderful, outstanding, and maybe just saved a Life. Well you are right, yes I truly believe mine was saved! After 6 years of using, I know I AM lucky to be alive, so I know ITS NEVER TO LATE TO STOP USING NICOTINE, but if young, stop NOW! There is no longer hide with guilt and fear of my future health. Now my new bike is used daily, I can, swim, sing and play with my Ftiends, Oh this new life is pure joy.

This is a fight for your health and your life. Give it your all because the alternative is cigarette smoking and if cigarettes are given the opportunity, they will take your all. To keep your FREEDOM, your health and your life, you must understand that your quit is contingent on knowing that to stay smoke free you must NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF.

Wednesday 22 January 2014

Competition is good between Friends

My "best friend" of almost 2 years now has always been competitive, but it's never been something we've discussed. I know he is better than me but every time I'm doing the same thing he does the same. When we used to prepare for examination, he would constantly try to beat my scores. I confronted him about that, but he never seems to learn — he still copies me and competes with everything from grades to friends. If I address the problems I've had in the past, I will look stupid because usually I would be the type to bring it up, but my life was too hectic at the time. It's really "waste" time talking to him about his competitiveness.

But we know little competition between friends is common and healthy, as long as it's acknowledged, mutual, and energizing to the relationship. Friendly rivalry can create inspiration, encouragement, and support, spurring friends to do more and be more.

My friend's continued unwillingness to "do his own thing," however, even after confronting him about it, sounds frustrating, and threatening to our friendship. Perhaps friend's constant competitiveness is his way of complementing my strengths in drive and ambition. Maybe he admires me so much that he wants to mimic my every move. Or, his ability to seek out his own aspirations may be affected by low self-esteem. Or, perhaps things are going on in his life that aren't apparently obvious; the constant competition may be his outlet for coping with personal issues. Our relationship might already be built on a foundation of competitiveness. If this is the case, perhaps my friend feels compelled to be "the one" to up the ante just to keep up with me. Sometimes what we despise or find annoying in others is what we dislike in ourselves. I am experiencing or expressing a clash of similar personalities and traits.

Although it may be uncomfortable and seem unfair, perhaps it is time to revisit a heart to heart with my friend. I need to make sure I am saying exactly what I need to, and expressing all that I need. It is not a waste of time, since I still seem to be invested in your relationship. The purpose of saying what I need is not necessarily getting what you want, but maintaining self-respect, as well as a sincere commitment to be clear about our feelings to our friend. Furthermore, I can assure my friend that you are eager to listen, to help understand what makes each of you bring out the competitiveness in one another.

It sounds like my mission, or hope, is to have a conversation to understand my friend's, and perhaps my own, competitive nature. The goal of the conversation is to open the discussion for both of us to learn about the impact of each other's behavior on the other. As hard as it may seem, try coming from a caring place when expressing your concern and desire to remain friends — if that is my objective. Highlight his finer points to accentuate the positive and downplay the negative. In particular, concentrate on aspects that he may be stronger in than you. In other words, you are the "bigger" person for praising his accomplishments (even though they may feel similar to me), to enable him to make more independent choices and decisions. When expressing our thoughts, deliver them in a concerned yet appreciative manner, using "I" statements — something along the lines that I feel honored and/or flattered that he has taken such an interest in my interests, and it is time that he take notice of and focus on herself and his unique qualities. Perhaps you can help her identify him own specialness, because sometimes it's hard to see one's own qualities. Accusing will get you nowhere and usually causes the responder to be on the defensive. Instead, you can begin by affirming your friendship.

Based on your talk, you could work through the problem together and maintain and cultivate your friendship, or you may choose to cut your losses and move on. It may help to write a list of all of the good things you gain from being friends with him, and another for the not-so-good things. If one list outweighs the other, it may be time to re-evaluate my friendship. Relationships take cooperation, communication, collaboration, commitment, nurturing, and time to mature. More than that, healthy relationships encourage people to be their best selves. And, while relationships need work to work, the payoffs can be rewarding.

They says they are better.

Some of among us are always happy on making fun of others and always laugh at others instead of making some social conversation they are those people who are the people who thinks that they are perfect, or just pretend that they are happy but while watching to those people we note that at a time period they are happier than they pretend and it is a time period which is happiness but at the same time they are just wasting their time in making themselves as they are, after these happiness one day they will be alone and searching for those people who can help them but they will be helpless

Tuesday 21 January 2014

We are alone in this planet

Today in my imagination was that, Everyone wandering for true friends and someone get that but still there are many reasons to be alone. We are just living in an alien planet where everyone is doing thing which takes them to the ending part of life and one day the friendship takes then to the rivalries of their own they imagine that they just had wasted their life entertaining each other an just wasting time together. As , they just need the time back and spent those time on preparing themselves to this tough times. As we can see we don't have the same mentality thus we can imagine that we are not be the same in future.

I think I might have a minor degree of depression. In School I did not have many friends but I had a few. I used to be really skinny and once I hit my junior and senior year in High School I started eating alot to cope with my loneliness at home and since then gained weight and I am not as cheerful as I used to be. I was hoping that things are going to get better for me in college but after attending one semester in college I couldn;t stand it anymore because I didn't make any friends there and I was crying alot until my parents decided to let my go home and attend another university in San Francisco where I lived. So I did attend another university but after attending one year there I have not met a single friend. I only hang out with my two friends from High School. I tend to be very shy around people. Like all I do is jsut go to class and like go home after class and use the internet. i know this is really sad but it's true. I have desparetly tried looking for part time jobs in efforts to find somethig to do and most importantly meet new people but I have no luck finding jobs where there are people who I can relate to. It's not like I have not tried to make life better for myself, I tried but it just that no one ever gives me a chance. It's hard for me to stay positive when bad things are constantly happening to me. I keep on thinking that if I find a job things are gonna be different I'm gonna make friends and be happy. But that's not the way it is. I am so tried of having to wake up every morning and do the same thig over and over again. the only thing that keeps me going is my daily morning exercise routine. Other then that I just spent my time overly focusing on my appearance or how I can change the way I look and I am constantly getting job interviews and getting rejected. For example if it's a like a job I can really see myself being a part of I would get rejected and if it's like a place I can't really imagine myself being a part of I would land that job. And just recently I was in a accident and lost my car to it and desparetly need money to purchase a car but it is hard because my job has me workin 5 hrs a week.I was in a near death accident and feel that there are so many things I want o do before I really did that but then why isn't anything getting better for me. I interviewed for a job and though that I did pretty good in that I was well prepared for it and I wasn't nervous and I clearly didn't get a call back for a 2nd interview and now I am left here moping again. I really don't know what to do anymore, I mean I keep thinking people don't want to talk to me because of the way I look so I am constantly focusing on improving the way I look. I don't know why people don't want to talk to me, I am a friendly person but I don't know if it's the way I dress or look that causes people to avoid me.I feel as if I have a big "loser" on my forehead. and I am thinking of switching universities to someplace next year to attend university with my best friend in hopes that people might be more friendly and try to get to know me over there. I am gonna be old soon and i don't to waste my "teen" years of my life being socially isolated and lonely. And seriously the only thing that makes me happy is the sense of accomplishment after my daily workout and my constant strive to change the way I look. Anyone else in the same situation as me.

It is important that I take a leap of faith and let someone know how I am been feeling. A good place to start would be with my parents. I may feel like they do not care, but this is a dangerous assumption. Sometimes when children are quiet, parents just assume that everything is okay or it may be that they are so caught up in their life that it seems they do not have much time for you. Either way, I need to let them know how you have been feeling. If you feel like you cannot approach your parents then find an adult that you trust and tell them how sad you have been. Once you have alerted someone the next step is to get help. When I feel like no one cares it is not uncommon to fantasize about death as a way to punish those that ignored you and make them sorry that they did not pay attention to you when you were alive. Feeling so miserable that I want to die is understandable but it is not the solution. I know Many teenagers have had similar feeling as I have but were able to get through them with the proper help and support.

I am very concerned about myself and want to assure myself that I do not have to live this way. My situation is not hopeless and in fact it can and will get better. I would be surprised how many people in my life really do care about me and if I am open up, I will begin to find out. Find your voice and you will find the way out of your misery.